The Foundation for Building Consistency
We understand that for our parents, doing the program is a journey. Just like planning for a trip, it is important that parents have ease along with purpose while doing the program. This article refers to how you can bring ease into your program.
The key to succeed with your program is consistency.
Why consistency? Not only doing something every day feels good, but it creates a habit. The habit creates results. The more consistently you do something, deeper is the habit, closer is the result.
I am proposing that consistency can be built. It doesn’t just happen in a day, and neither is it an all or none phenomenon. Often it is assumed that to be consistent you need to have control. In practice though, it has little to do with having control and a lot to do with exercising control.
Exercising control creates a habit.
As a parent, you carry enormous care, love and responsibility. But as a parent, you are also familiar with worry, guilt and frustration. The following are tips for you to exercise control in any situation and build a consistent program.
You are a good person. It is very easy to doubt this essential truth. The minute you can’t accomplish your goals, this is the first attack that is coming at you. It is very essential to distinguish between two facts: “I couldn’t do a task” and “I am a good person”. These are two different facts. You will agree that the good person has better success at exercising control of unaccomplished goals. So let’s hold onto the good person. Now you can get things done.
You are capable. It is the second most doubted fact. It is natural and expected to have unexpected circumstances coming out of nowhere in your day. No single day is the same. Yet we manage to do many of the same things every single day. Remember, two more facts here: “No single day is the same” and “We manage to do the same things every day”. It tells you that you have the ability to handle any situation every single day. You are a very capable person. A capable person can get things done.
You can do anything. With the two big doubts out of the way, you can clearly take up the fact “I can’t do a task” and assess its validity with respect to your day. You are now in a position to exercise control. You bring yourself to a position at this point to know how you want to address the problem. You might just be able to get down to the task. Easy. You may have to take some action, ask for help or give tender attention to the problem. Not quite as easy. But assessing the nature of the problem puts you in a position to exercise control. You can do something about it even if it means you choose to not do anything about it right at this moment.
One step at a time. Nothing happens all at once. Even a flower blooms gradually, and so do dawn and dusk. Remember, it is not necessary that these occur slowly, but they do occur in small steps. To fully exercise control, it is important to know one step follows the other or else we tumble and fall. Knowing this basic law helps us be patient with ourselves and to the situation we are facing, and to eventually succeed in overcoming it.
You are now in a firm position of knowing that you are a good person, capable and can do anything one step at a time. As parents on the Doman International program you can be secure in the knowledge that help is available to you when you know you need it.
What’s more? You are teaching your child that he is good, capable and can do anything in a step by step manner through your actions.
At Doman International, we care that your program with your child gives you all the reasons to enjoy your journey. Remember, consistency can be built. And consistency brings results.
Written by: Niyati Patel